Monday, January 18, 2010

Dating Virginia: The Three-Day Rule

Everyone knows that there are "rules" in the dating world. Who determined these rules, I haven't the slightest. But, now that I am very deep in the dating realm, I'm realizing that not only are these rules apparent, but they are followed.

One rule I have never quite understood is the "Three-Day Rule". This rule, of course, implies that you should wait three days to contact someone you went out on a date with. Urban Dictionary describes it as: "A rule used by douchebag guys who think that waiting three days after a date to call means that the girl will want them more, when really it just pisses them off"

(i.e.) I thought he was blowing me off, but he totally three day ruled me. Classic.

Thank you, Urban Dictionary! It is a douchebaggy thing to do. I understand the idea: the guy wants to seem busy and incredibly popular, but it really gives us the opposite impression. You're over there thinking, "Heh, she totally thinks I'm cool and have so much to do. I bet she can't wait to see me again!" and I'm thinking, "This is ridiculous, how many people is he dating?" or "I bet his wife had a baby this weekend."

I went out with "Cab Guy" again on Friday night. Once again, I had a good time. Conversation was great and we were really getting along. Even the woman at the bar catching on fire didn't derail our budding chemistry. (Seriously, I can't make this shit up.)

But, there was one issue. I had two glasses of wine and a beer at the bar - not an unusual amount of alcohol for me - but I left so drunk. In fact, I spent the remainder of the night bulimia-ing into a trashcan next to my bed. It's still a mystery to me, how I could get so sick on so little alcohol, but ah, I digress.

Back to the topic at hand. It's been three days. I can normally tell the difference between "chemistry" and "stupid crush" and I'm most certain that this one was "chemistry". So, why hasn't he called? In my mind, if you mesh well with someone, there's no reason why you should force yourself to wait to talk to them. If you want to talk, you talk! If you want to hang out again, you can throw out a "Hey, are you free Sunday afternoon?" after a Friday night date and it's alright! Am I alone in this? Am I just being a rebellious dater?

Since today is "Day 3" I guess I'll wait and see if I hear from him. I'll keep you posted.

UPDATE: He didn't call. :(


Brandon said...
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Anna Bowland said...

Was it red wine? That always gets me.

Virginia said...

Nah, it was white wine. But, I think it was a combination of not enough food + nervous stomach.