"This is love, she thought, isn't it? When you notice someone's absence and hate that absence more than anything? More, even, than you love his presence?"
— Jonathan Safran Foer (Everything Is Illuminated)
Wednesday, December 29, 2010
Tuesday, December 28, 2010
A few of my favorite things..
Friday, December 24, 2010
I hate this movie
Monday, December 20, 2010
Tuesday, December 14, 2010
Monday, December 13, 2010
"There's a pale winter moon in the sky coming through my window
And the park is laid out like a bed below
It's a cold, dark night and my heart melts like the snow
And the bells of New York City tell me not to go
It's always this time of year that my thoughts undo me
With the ghosts of many lifetimes all abound
But from these mad heights I can always hear the sound
Of the bells of New York City singing all around
Stay with me, stay with me
Refuge from these broken dreams
Wait right here, awake with me
On silent, snow filled streets."
-Josh Groban, Bells of New York City
'Tis the season to... overindulge
This week, Craig and I attended 3 Christmas parties (with one after-party) and a birthday celebration accompanied with enough fried food to make even the North Carolina State Fair weep with cardiac fear.
All of the food and drinks of the week and not a single foot in the gym, literally left us flat on our backs Saturday night, a Ginger-Ale on each night stand, sharing a bottle of Pepto Bismol.
I'm feeling slightly better this Monday afternoon, after having a single tomato for dinner Sunday night and a slice of bread with peanut butter on it for breakfast this morning. One thing I have certainly learned: I just can't eat like I used to. I think I have literally shrunk my stomach so that I simply cannot indulge like I have before. When I do, I feel sick, nauseous, and my stomach bloats, leaving me looking like I'm 5 months pregnant. (yikes!)
So, I vow to get back on it! I've still got a ways to go to meet my goal and after a month and a half, I've probably just broken even. Going to try to stay in the negatives moving forward! Hold me to it!
Sunday, December 12, 2010
Stuff My Boyfriend Says...
"I could never get away with beating you.. you bruise too easily."
Friday, December 10, 2010
Wednesday, December 8, 2010
Wednesday, December 1, 2010
Thursday, November 18, 2010
Thursday, November 11, 2010
7 Things I've Been Doing
So, in order to get back on track, I need to do some updating. What have I been doing? Take a look:
1. Working:
My job is going pretty well. It's incredibly nice to have some security these days! Basically, I'm the executive assistant to everyone in my office. Sure, my job is much more than "can I get you some coffee?" but I'm essentially the go-to person for any needs in my office, in addition to my other duties. My company produces and sells equipment for audio production (recording studios) and broadcast (television studios) companies. It's a pretty cool company and I'm really starting to get some close contacts within the industry that could end up being helpful in transitioning into something more in line with my career path. Sometimes, though, I feel like I'm getting so far away from a "career", that it will be too hard to go back. But, I have to remind myself that I'm still young and there's no wrong way to start a career. It certainly couldn't hurt to have more money though!
2. Gettin' Skinny
In approximately seven months, I'll be boarding a gigantic cruise ship for a week-long vacation in the Caribbean. Every 5 years, my family takes a vacation to celebrate the marriage of my grandparents and the wonderful family they formed from that bond. And, each time before, I have vowed to drop some weight and feel comfortable in my body while on that very anticipated vacation. Each time, I have failed. Until this year. I believe I've made progress with myself (mentally) and have done what needs to be done to prepare for this challenge. While I have already lost a bit of weight since the beginning of 2010, I'm working on the final push toward my goal. I am happy to report that I have gone to the gym (or have done some sort of exercise) regularly since I began this uphill climb. This includes cardio, group exercise classes, and Exercise TV On Demand (Greatest thing ever, it's free.. look it up. Amazing!) and I have the sore body to prove it! More importantly, for the first time (in like, ever) my body fat percentage is in the "healthy" range. I don't remember a time where I did a body fat percentage calculator that didn't put me in the "overweight" category. Now, I fall into "normal". Healthy is the ultimate goal here; a bikini bod is just the icing (okay, fat free cool whip) ;)
3. Cooking
It's no secret that I find comfort in the kitchen. As a "baker", traditionally, my mind naturally wonders toward recipes of the sweeter nature. Since that can be bad news for the diet tribe, I've had to take charge of my recipes and ensure they pack the nutrients my body needs. I've made an effort to include lean meats, high fiber, and low carbohydrates in the meals I make. One of my favorite things though, is that Craig and I cook together. We're learning how to eat better while still maintaining the fun of preparing a meal and the reward of something flavorful and healthy. In the past month, we've cranked out things like Turkey Pumpkin Chili, Lemon Talapia Steamers, Honey Glazed Pork Chops, among others.
4. Writing
Because my job offers no sort of creative outlet, I've found myself in a creative deficiency. That, coupled with money problems, I've decided to start freelance writing. I'm starting slow, maybe one to two articles a month, dealing most likely with women's issues. It's a way I can express myself creatively and begin to develop an in-depth portfolio of published works. Stay tuned on this one, I'll be updating you on where you can see some VA originals in the coming weeks!
5. Boyfriending
Craig, Craig.. what can I say about Craig? I'd be lying if I said I didn't spend most of my time with this guy. Craig is also working with me on the "gettin' skinny" program, so we've been spending a lot of time at the gym. Our relationship has gotten better, stronger even, and we're finding it easier to navigate the "relationship maze" merging our individuality with togetherness and keeping both of us happy. I find myself wondering what I could have possibly done to deserve him, but I'm learning to just live my life and enjoy having him in it.
6. Money Hoarding
Seems like there is never enough money. I know I have survived on far less than I have right now, but it just feels like each and every month, I'm scraping the bottom of the barrel. This is especially disheartening because I've had to sacrifice attending some key events in my friend's lives (like bachelorette weekends, birthday parties, etc.) due to financial constraints. I do understand that it might not always be that way, but it's difficult to tell people I can't participate in their joys and successes because of my financial situation. Because of this (and with a few important events coming up) I have been money hoarding. I've pinched every penny, tucked away every dollar. I only shop for things that I absolutely need and I have a very careful budget about food. It's not easy, and it's definitely not fun, but it's what I have to do to survive. Financial freedom is something I definitely do not have at the moment.
7. Living
So basically, it's work, a little play, and never enough sleep. My tiny studio apartment is beginning to feel more and more like home and settling in has been easier than I could have imagined. I'm sure one day, when I have a multiple bedroom home, complete with a washer and dryer, I'll think back on my tiny studio in Manhattan with fondness and humor. It may be small, but it's what I've got and I'm loving what I've got.
What's next?
With the holidays coming up, I'll be making a few trips back to North Carolina to visit with my family and friends.. super excited for this!
There you have it: 7 things I've been "up to". Most importantly, I'm happy. I'm making a life for myself in the city and I'm becoming more comfortable with who I am each and every day. The bridge between small-town girl and city woman is getting smaller with each passing moment. Two different worlds, both belonging to me!
Monday, November 8, 2010
Friday, November 5, 2010
Wednesday, November 3, 2010
Tuesday, November 2, 2010
Thinking about home..
Monday, November 1, 2010
Halloween 2010
Thursday, October 28, 2010
Tuesday, October 26, 2010
Strange morning.
Thursday, October 21, 2010
Tuesday, October 19, 2010
Monday, October 18, 2010
Corrinne May - Everything In Its Time
Sometimes I wonder what lies ahead
How long till my hunger is fed
They say it's hard to make it in this part of town
So many people on this merry-go-round
Some folks try astrology
Some turn to crystal balls
To find an answer
To get through it all
I just fall on my knees and try to pray
In the silence I can hear Him say
The river runs and the river hides
Out to the ocean and under the sky
I promise you, the answer will come
Hold on to patience and watch for the sign
Everything in its time
I often feel like I'm two steps behind
Somebody must have moved that finish line
There are a thousand reasons why I should give up
But I'm stubborn in the things I believe
The river runs and the river hides
Out to the ocean and under the sky
I promise you, the answer will come
Hold on to patience and watch for the sign'Cause maybe there's another plan
One I still can't see
A little surprise, like your love in my life
Funny how time changes how we seeThe river runs and the river hides
Out to the ocean and under the sky
I promise you, the answer will come
Hold on to patience and watch for the sign
Everything in its time
Everything in its time
Sunday, October 17, 2010
Saturday, October 16, 2010
Monday, October 11, 2010
Weekend in Review
Sunday, October 10, 2010
Friday, October 8, 2010
Wednesday, October 6, 2010
Monday, October 4, 2010
Wednesday, September 29, 2010
Friday, September 24, 2010
Tuesday, September 21, 2010
Stuff my boyfriend says..
"In North Carolina, they have an entire restaurant that just sells biscuits."
Thursday, September 16, 2010
Wednesday, September 15, 2010
Monday, September 13, 2010
I trust you, Babe.
Sara Bareilles - The Light
In the morning it comes, heaven sent a hurricane
Not a trace of the sun but I don't even run from rain
Beating out of my chest, heart is holding on to you
From the moment I knew
From the moment I knew
You're the air in my breath filling up my love soaked lungs
Such a beautiful mess intertwined and overrun
Nothing better than this, No, and then the storm can come
You feel just like the sun
Just like the sun
And if you say it'll be alright
I'm gonna trust you, babe
I'm gonna look in your eyes
And if you say it'll be alright
I'll follow you into the light
Never mind what I knew, nothing seems to matter now
Ooh, who I was without you, I can do without
No one knows where it ends, how it may come tumbling down
But I'm here with you now
I'm with you now
And if you say it'll be alright
I'm gonna trust you, babe
I'm gonna look in your eyes
And if you say it'll be alright
I'll follow you into the light
Let the world come rush in
Come down hard; come crush in
All I need is right here beside me
I'm not enough, I swear it
Take my love and wear it over your shoulders
And if you say it'll be alright
I'm gonna trust you, babe
I'm gonna look in your eyes
And if you say it'll be alright
I'll follow you into the light
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I listened to it over and over and over again. Letting the words wash over me. I've been in such a strange place lately. Having to continually fight for the relationship I have and define it to other people has caused me to constantly try to define it in my own mind. Will it last? Is it true? And sadly, it's made me question so much that I began to not remember what was so wonderful about us to begin with. Maybe these words were exactly what I needed, to start to release the pressure, to live in the moment. It's not easy, but I'm trying. "No one knows where it ends, how it may come tumbling down, but I'm here with you now."
Friday, September 10, 2010
Wednesday, September 1, 2010
We watched The Cove.
If you have not seen this documentary, you need to stop what you're doing right now and go out and get it (or at least put it on your Netflix queue). It's no wonder this documentary won Best Documentary at this past year's Academy Awards. It does everything a good documentary is supposed to do. While watching, you learn something new, you get a tingling feeling in your spine watching people on the verge of getting caught, and your stomach rises to your throat in anger as you realize exactly what is going on.
The Cove is a place in Taiji, Japan where the largest dolphin slaughter in the world takes place. It's hidden by wooded cliffs and heavily protected by Japanese fishermen.
An espionage move, the team is able to plant cameras into never-before-seen areas of the cove and captured exactly what was happening. It's heartbreaking the detail that is seen, from the boats corralling the dolphins in, to the eventual bloody waters of the aftermath. It's gut wrenching.
In fact, Craig and I stared expressionless at each other afterwards until it was finally uttered, "What can we do??"
Just watch it. Please.